I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations - one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it - you will regret both.
--Soren Kierkegaard
Like many of us, I have long debated which is worse, regret for things undone, or regret for mistakes made. I have tended to come down on the side of believing that missed opportunities, roads not taken, cause the greater regret, but I think Kierkegaard has a point.
WYFP is our community's Saturday evening gathering to talk about our problems, empathize with one another, and share advice, pootie pictures, favorite adult beverages, and anything else that we think might help. Everyone and all sorts of troubles are welcome. May we find peace and healing here. Won't you please share the joy of WYFP by recommending?
As I age, I find that I am piling up regrets. Who was it that said that you know when you're old because your regrets will outnumber your dreams?
I certainly do not welcome the vagaries of chance and misfortunate, but sometimes it seems easier to cope with what is dealt to you, to face what you cannot change, than it is to make conscious choices that alter your life. It is so hard to make those choices without bringing consequences to others, without causing pain. As our lives progress, they become so interwoven with those of others that choices that we make ripple out from ourselves, and not always in positive ways.
I struggle with balancing what seems to me to be pure selfishness against the reality that I can't please everyone, can't even really understand what motivates those I love. In the end, can we only please ourselves? The hardest part of being an adult is making choices.
My FP this evening is facing choices, trying to decide how to make the best life for myself and those I love. My FP is struggling with whether I am "entitled" to make choices that will certainly harm some people that I care about, to achieve happiness and growth for myself.
What's your FP this evening?